I found OurHome on a Reddit thread where someone asked what apps families actually use to manage chores. It had good reviews. People talked about their kids earning points for doing dishes, the gamification angle, how the reward system got their nine-year-olds to actually empty the dishwasher without a fight.
I downloaded it immediately because our kids also don't empty the dishwasher without a fight.
Here's what happened: our kids thought it was genuinely fun for about ten days. They checked in, they collected their points, they cashed them in for screen time with an enthusiasm I had never seen directed at a household task. For those ten days, the dishwasher was being emptied without me asking.
Then the novelty wore off and we were back to the old system, which is me asking.
I kept using OurHome for a few weeks after that, trying to figure out if there was more to it. There is a chore tracking piece for adults. You can assign tasks to yourself or your partner. But the whole design logic of the app is centered on children and motivation — the stickers, the points, the parent approval step where you check off that the task was done. It's a system for managing kids' participation in the household. That's genuinely useful if that's your problem.
My problem is not that my kids don't help. My problem is that two adults, both of us with full jobs and good intentions, are not carrying the household equally. The load is invisible and it all lives in my head. OurHome wasn't built for that.
What I needed was less about motivation and more about information. Marcus isn't avoiding tasks because he doesn't want to do them. He's avoiding them because he doesn't know they exist. The information about what needs doing, by when, and who should own it — that doesn't exist in a shared place. It exists in my head.
Orbyt is built for that specific gap. Tasks get assigned to whoever owns them. The due dates, the context, the whole picture — it's shared without me being the narrator. When Marcus marks something done, I can see it. When something new needs to happen, I can put it in and it arrives on his side without a conversation.
OurHome is a good app for families with kids who need structure and motivation around household participation. If that's your challenge, go try it, it's free and it actually works.
If your challenge is two adults trying to figure out how to split the mental load, OurHome is solving a different problem. Orbyt is in beta at orbythq.com and it's the closest thing I've found to actually addressing the adult equity problem.